Disagreement is normal but when it leads to the point of fighting and bickering are not healthy. Arguing just to win isn't really rewarding, it is exhausting and hurtful especially when the person you have argue with is your partner.
Since I don't have an outdoor activity today, I read an article titled "Why Winning Isn't All That," by Lauren Zander from Women's Health magazine while having some one glass of red wine. I learn some helpful tips today from her.
The article is about communicating effectively toward your significant other. Lauren shares some simple yet helpful tips to resolve this kind of situation. Though, It is normal in every relationship to agree to disagree, but some people loves to bicker or loves the unending quarrel just to feel victorious to let her/his partner feel guilty over and over about her/his partner's wrong doing. Lauren has 4 simple tips to communicate lovingly.
Lauren's tips:
1. Ask yourself what you'd really be winning. By evaluating yourself to this question, you'll have the first step toward conquering your temper. You'll have the shift of thinking for the options to how you'd talk about the situations that bother you most without raising voice, that in the first place should not be raise the voice.
2. Stop seeing him/her as a competitor. To achieve harmonious and loving relationship, stop acting as you are competing with your mate. Both should be a team mate, help and understand each other and try to listen with emphaty.
3. Fight Clean. This means that when one explain her/his side, the other should listen humbly. Don't both talk at the same time as it results to a more misunderstanding and chaotic time.
4. Move On. As both side finished express lovingly, move on without any grudges. Don't let any residue of grudges reside in your heart for it will still come back like a butterfly effect. Butterfly effect is that the new argument reacts from old time guilt.
Lauren Zander is a "life coach and cofounder of the firm the 'Handel Group'."
handelgroup.com
If you guys have more tips to share, you are welcome to drop a line.
Since I don't have an outdoor activity today, I read an article titled "Why Winning Isn't All That," by Lauren Zander from Women's Health magazine while having some one glass of red wine. I learn some helpful tips today from her.
The article is about communicating effectively toward your significant other. Lauren shares some simple yet helpful tips to resolve this kind of situation. Though, It is normal in every relationship to agree to disagree, but some people loves to bicker or loves the unending quarrel just to feel victorious to let her/his partner feel guilty over and over about her/his partner's wrong doing. Lauren has 4 simple tips to communicate lovingly.
Lauren's tips:
1. Ask yourself what you'd really be winning. By evaluating yourself to this question, you'll have the first step toward conquering your temper. You'll have the shift of thinking for the options to how you'd talk about the situations that bother you most without raising voice, that in the first place should not be raise the voice.
2. Stop seeing him/her as a competitor. To achieve harmonious and loving relationship, stop acting as you are competing with your mate. Both should be a team mate, help and understand each other and try to listen with emphaty.
3. Fight Clean. This means that when one explain her/his side, the other should listen humbly. Don't both talk at the same time as it results to a more misunderstanding and chaotic time.
4. Move On. As both side finished express lovingly, move on without any grudges. Don't let any residue of grudges reside in your heart for it will still come back like a butterfly effect. Butterfly effect is that the new argument reacts from old time guilt.
Lauren Zander is a "life coach and cofounder of the firm the 'Handel Group'."
handelgroup.com
If you guys have more tips to share, you are welcome to drop a line.
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